Saying "No" - my goodness this is one of my absolute biggest problems! I just find it so difficult to say no to people an awful lot of the time.
I don't know what it is, a combination I guess of always wanting to please people and not wanting to let them down. The trouble is sometimes, especially in the workplace, you have to say no. Be it because your workload is too heavy or perhaps to stop others taking advantage of your good nature and off-loading on to you. Finding a positive way to say no occasionally is an essential skill to ensure that you can be at your most productive.
So I decided to do some research on this in order to help myself and in turn anyone reading this who may suffer from the same over people-pleasing affliction. It's nothing to do with being mean, it's just about keeping things well balanced and being more realistic, a carefully placed no can actually increase your all round efficiency.
I came across a couple of really good articles on this subject - in particular this one on lifehacker which I found very useful: How People Pleasers Can Learn to Say "No" More Often
To surmise what I have learned and will be trying to put into practise from now on, here are a few points that I think are very useful to remember:
1. Saying no doesn't mean you're being rude or unkind. You will not lose future opportunities just because you say no now and then.
2. Saying no is about showing that you are able to make informed decisions and value your own time and needs.
3. Life is not about never saying no, don't avoid it - it's just about how you say it. For some really good tips on how to approach saying no in different situations see this article here on zenhabits.
4. Saying no helps you to prioritise and organise your life and workload more efficiently and can have very positive outcomes.
Do you find it hard to say no? Do you have any additional advice? Let me know your thoughts by leaving a comment below.