"When one door closes, another door opens; but we so often look so long and regretfully upon the closed door, that we do not see the ones which open for us."
Alexander Graham Bell
Even though I write this blog focusing on as many positive and work-life balance topics that I can find, I must confess that part of the reason that this blog has ended up following such a path is that this isn't always the way that I actually feel! I hope you don't think me a fraud but my proclivity to sometimes follow the negative has led me to seek out mindfulness, happiness and balanced topics in an attempt to help myself as well as I hope those of my readers who find a connection with the subjects that I pick.
One of the hardest things in life is sometimes looking forward when something hasn't gone as you've hoped. I've covered the idea before in this post about things not going as planned but today I thought at look at some ideas for how to react in life when you feel a door that might have been open for an opportunity has closed unexpectedly. How to put the lilt back into your step and search for other, perhaps much better, open door full of scope and fabulous new ideas and options.
So when one door closes don't focus on the negative and what you may have lost but instead take the chance to look at life with fresh eyes and try the following ideas:
1. Say yes, yes, yes and seize the day! Throw yourself open to new possibilities that may be just around the corner by saying yes to new things that come your way without overthinking. Seize the day and see where it takes you! A dear friend once gave me a book called 132 Seize The Days a Lonely Planet guide with a difference. Its full of ideas to help change the way you look at your free-time whether that be new ways to relax, travel, volunteer your time or learn a new skill. Full of great ideas and inspiration from the very simple to the little more adventurous.
2. Make a promise to yourself that you will no longer hesitate in life. Akin to seizing the day but hesitation can be such a stealer of joy and a cause of great procrastination. Of course some big life choices do need wise consideration and careful planning but don't forget that some of the greatest experiences can come from grabbing the opportunity and going for it without hesitation.
3. Get out and meet new people. I know what it's like to want to hide under the covers and not face the world especially when things haven't perhaps turned out the way that you had hoped. The thing is that often life won't be exactly what you had hoped it to be. It will throw curveballs at various steps along the way. Next time you feel the urge to hide push yourself out of that comfort zone and head out and mingle! You don't have to be the most confident or outgoing in the room if you do venture out, you just have to be willing to chat to some new faces. Maybe you'll only connect with one new person out of a room of 1000's but that one fresh face might just hold the key to the inspiration for your next adventure in life.
4. Remain positive and work on having a positive attitude. We've all heard the saying about that half empty or half full glass of ours! If you are someone who tends to be on the half empty side that's fine, we can't help who we naturally are. We can, however, help who we learn to be and teach ourself new ways to react. If you aren't a naturally positive person then this is something you can work on. Step back from yourself when you're feeling negative and consciously ask yourself to think about things in another way. Focus on the positive and the things that you do have rather than those that you don't.
5. Tap back into your curiosity. Just a little while ago I wrote a post about the power of our imagination and how it can be lost when we get older and caught up in the routine of daily life. When things need shaking up and you're after a new direction, imagination and curiosity are key to inspiring yourself to move onward. Take a moment to reconnect with this part of you and allow it to offer up ideas, or just the chance to break your routine in order to refocus - Don't Neglect The Power Of Imagination.
So next time that door you have ventured so longingly towards closes just as you feel you've reached it, never fear. Step back and search for another open door and seize a whole new world of opportunity. Life is too short to worry about what might have been - instead look forward to all the things ahead. Things that you don't even know might be yet but may just end up even more wonderful than what you had planned!